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A Quick Post – Asking the Wrong Question to the Right Answer

Posted on 08/10/2019 by sissie billie

Evening Folks,

I haven’t posted  for the last 2 weeks as Madam felt that I should take a short break from the Social Media thing after my rant about Pintrest and other stuff, and that was a sensible thing to do.

We’ve been busy over the last couple of weeks with just doing our thing, I’ve even managed to have a game of golf with John (Mick and John are both equally dreadful at golf but we do enjoy the effort), I think that we managed to get the last good day of the weather.

so what is the jist of this post, well I ‘ve had several emails and messages asking how I’m finding my enforced chastity during Loctober…….. and they kind of go like this….

“How you coping with Loctober?”

“Eerrr…..????  I’m not doing loctober.”

“Yes you are! your in chastity!  your Mistress has put you in chastity because you as a submissive cuckold, yadda yadda yadda….”

“I’m not doing Loctober, Madam put me in Chastity back in April.”

“Yes, but it is Loctober..”

“whoa there sunshine!  October is just another frustrating month that I have to pass through on the way to either a release in late November or at Christmas”

“Isn’t your Mistress going to release you at the end of the month?”

“Nope”

and with that I either get a “Oh, that’s a bit of a sod” (no it isn’t) or what have you done to upset her – nothing, have you read my profile or my blog….queue shameless plug for this blog….

and so it is that I explain that my chastity is an important part of our relationship and an important part of allowing me to focus on what pleases Madam, it’s grown to be more than just a once a year event and it isn’t anything bad, if anything it has improved a lot of things for me and Madam.

If you are locked for the month – enjoy the frustrations and sensations and if you are locked up normally… well just keep doing what you do or have to do.

PS I had a message from Madam who is working away she has purchased another metal chastity for me.  I suspect that this is either a smaller one or one with a urethral tube fitting.  I’ll just have to wait and see.

Another Milestone achieved.

Posted on 22/09/2019 by sissie billie

I’ve just noticed that I’ve passed the 150 days mark of my chastity.

The Puritans Strike again!!! (Warning! – this post contains Rants!!)

Posted on 17/09/2019 by sissie billie

As usual one of my morning tasks is to find 10 images, photo, gifs videos each day and select them and explain to Madam why I have chosen them.

These images may be chosen as they are a turn on, erotic, fit with the FLR lifestyle, something that we have discussed or even just because I like the look of it – in the pasted I selected everything from BDSM images through to a landscape photo of part of the Lake district that I though would be nice for us to visit.

So long as I can explain or give a reason why I’ve selected the image and how it would be of interest to Madam, our lifestyle and me is fine.  (a poor reason may result in an addition comment to my performance review).

One of the often used sources is Pintrest, it is a good source of all sorts of images but it can be a real twat when it comes to it’s moral code on porn, erotica etc.  I regularly have had pins deleted, I’ve had boards deleted but when the account has been threatened I’ve been given  warning and then self purged the images (down load to my hard drive).

The majority of these images are D/s, FLR and sissy related, but the bizarre ones have been that the couple of history folders that I’ve had have also been deleted.  My Grandad served in the Army during WW2 and I would have a folder of WW2 images relating to the British Army that I used for research into his career and another that looked at the History of the Midlands during the Victorian period (Hey everyone needs a hobby and this FLR is a lifestyle not just for fun!!!) and both those folders get regular deletions.

Well having gone to pick some images this morning I found that our account had been suspended, no warnings, no indication, the last time we had an image removed was in July and since then loads of recommendations from Pintrest (some I thought might be a bit too risky) and then bang! account suspended.

while I have put in an appeal we’ll see where this goes, the suspicious bastard part of me does note that this is almost 2 years to the day that we had the WordPress Blog deleted – is September the month of the Censor?

I’m quite glad that we have reopened our Flickr account recently as I’m getting a bit tired of this battle with sites such as Pintrest, Tumblr and others.  we opened a twitter account as that seemed to be where a lot of Tumblr refugees went to, but it does seem that there is less and less places to go and far more restrictions, I do wonder about this censorship, where will it end? and what will be end result?

I keep politics out of our blog, we have blog friends who have very different views from us and that is a great and healthy thing to have in society, and different views should be allowed in areas of sex, religion, race and culture.  If you try and remove some of these views to start to develop 1984 types of “group think” and that creates people that become herd animals and some that get pushed to the extreme edges and for the majority that are pushed to the edges they are actually mainstream people who just won’t conform to the herd.  It doesn’t make them extreme just bloodly different but the risk is that they will be classed as extreme by the “Herd”.

There are new puritans out there and I worry that their view of the worlds will impact on more of us, God forbid that “dare to be different” becomes a battle cry for some and a crime for others.

well I’ll finish now as Madam will be home shortly and I need to make sure that I have her bath run and a glass of wine ready.

G’Night all, and mind how you go……

billie xxx

An almost vanilla weekend

Posted on 04/09/2019 by sissie billie

As I’ve mentioned before our plans for the Bank Holiday weekend were cancelled due to the hotel having problems due to damaged accommodation, but we have plans for later in the year.

Now normally I am dispatched down to Mistress Carol’s home for 4 days and then everyone heads off to meet up for a big get together.  However with the cancellation things completely changed.

Everyone cancelled the planned holiday time off and worked as normal and we all decided that we would all come to our home for the Bank Holiday weekend.  so on Friday Afternoon we had Mistress Carol and her Partner (she always states that she is too old to have Boyfriend and he is too old to be a boy!) and her husband Kerri (Kevin) arrive mid afternoon.  Madam Alice arrived home from work very soon after that and Sir arrived about 6pm.

The weekend was very relaxed for all of us, with everyone enjoying several bottles of wine and generally catching up.  Myself and Kerri were invited to join in the evening and everyone just help themselves with the bit of a buffet and the drinks.

Kerri is very much full time dressed, apart form at her work where she works in one of the area offices of a high street bank.  so she was kitted out in a blouse, skirt and stockings, and I was in a short skirt, stockings and satin blouse.

The sleeping arrangements for the weekend was an indication that it was a relaxed weekend with Madam and Sir in the Main (Mistress) Bedroom, Mistress Carol and partner in the main guest room and Kerri and I sharing the small guest room.  now this isn’t unusual as I often share a bed with Kerri and between Madam and Mistress Carol they have encouraged me to consider Kerri as a Girlfriend and my mentor in my submissive development.

So bed time arrangements where very simple, both of us are caged, we both sleep in lingerie and our respective Spouses allowed us to “enjoy ourselves” when we went to bed.  so a quick trip down to my room fetching lube, toys and “things”, only to find that Kerri had brought some of her own toys.  I have to say, I do love spending time with my girlfriend and I was very tired in the morning, but that seemed to be the case with everyone.

Saturday was a  very relaxed day with a BBQ starting mid afternoon.  Masters John and Danny (Mistress Carol’s partner) took charge of the cooking as “cooking with fire” is a bloke thing, I was relegated to sitting with Madam and Mistress and kerri.  Again no real FLR or Dom/ Sub play and all just very vanilla friends chatting and having a laugh.

Sunday had kerri and I up and on the go in Maids uniforms tiding up and cleaning the debris from the previous evening with a brunch prepared for everyone at 10.30am.  the house made presentable and everyone fed we went and changed and myself and kerri headed out for a wander in the local woods.  I have to admit kerri did take advantage of me a couple of times when we were out with a couple of heavy kissing sessions, and when you have 2 people in chastity turning each other on, it’s not a good situation!!!!!!!

That evening we had a meal booked in a Restaurant, or so I thought.  as everyone was getting ready Kerri and I were summoned to the living room and told that we would be driving to and from the restaurant for the evening.  but we would need to get ready.  we were to both wear black bra’s, suspenders knickers and stockings.  Kerri would wear a sheer blouse and mid thigh skirt  and her heels.  I was to wear a coloured blouse with a male tie and black trousers – no socks and flat shoes – but I was to have clear nail varnish on.  Mistress Carol wanted me to have a clear lip gloss on but Madam stopped her on that.

both of us were to have butt plugs in for the evening!!

we were then told that we were not dining with Madam and Mistress but we had been booked into a small Italian restaurant close to where the “Grown Ups” would be dining.  we were to have our meal and enjoy the evening and we would be called when to come and pick up everyone.

The final blow was that Madam would put a tartan mini skirt, sheer white blouse, heels and a make up bag in the boot of kerri’s car.  When we got the call to pick up our spouses and their partners, I was to make sure that I was changed out of my male clothes and into the skirt and heels and add some make up – full blown red lipstick was suggested  and eye shadow etc and my male clothes must be placed in the boot of kerri’s car.

Now kerri has been dressing in public for over 20 years, she carries it off really well and we have been out together loads of times and she is fantastic at being fem – either very girly, very fetish – what every she wants. so I’m pretty comfortable with what she does and being with her.  I on the other hand am not very fem, my best efforts have me as a submissive in a dress for humiliation reasons – don’t get me wrong I love it and thrive on it, but even on a good day and a dark night I’m not going to pass!! – just saying!

 Either way it was a brilliant night, we dropped our Dom’s off at the Pub/Restaurant in our two cars and we headed a couple miles further on to the Italian.  we found a discrete parking area and got the cars next to each other and went and had our meal – really nice venue, good food and enjoyed the evening.  about 11pm we got a text telling us that Madam was ready to be picked up.

we didn’t dawdle, we headed back to the cars and I quickly changed, slipping off trousers and slipping on skirt – stocking tops were very much on show with this skirt, tie off, blouse off and new blouse on – the black bra was really on show and I slipped on the 4″ heels and then kerri picked up my male clothes and popped them in the boot while I added some make up, trying not to be too hasty and ending up looking like a clown!.

With all that achieved without being noticed by a passer by we headed off to pick up our Spouses.

The pub car park was very well lit, Damn those LEDs and their illumination!  Thankfully there wasn’t too much delay and everyone was ready to go and we got on the road quite quickly.

Once home, we all headed to the living room and wine was poured including for myself and kerri.

Now we aren’t swinger (??) but there are established relationships.  Madam and Sir are partners and there are no other male partners (I’m classed as her submissive husband but we don’t have sex, we make love when she wants, but no other male sex partners in the relationship.)  

Madam is Bi Sexual with Mistress Carol, but not anyone else.

Master John and Master Danny, are committed to their sex partners and both will have sex with their respective cuckold submissives.

I am allowed to have a submissive relationship with Kerri as my TV girlfriend (and occasional TV Mistress) but there is no unprotected sex between us (chastity/ condoms- consider your definition of safe sex).

so if you can follow that rather complicated path you can see the dynamics of our relationship and the friendship that we have.

By about midnight and after a few glasses of wine we were ready for bed.  Madam and Mistress had decided that they wanted to play with each other and were down to their underwear giving quite a show to everyone and with that Master Danny told Kerri and I to go to bed.  As a parting call Madam broke off her kiss with Mistress to tell us that we should bring tea up at 9am and have a brunch planned for later in the morning, her last comment before we left was “enjoy yourselves! ‘Night Night!”

Yes we did enjoy ourselves.  a chastity 69 is frustrating but when you are using a vibrator or dildo on your partner while sucking their locked clit penis can be very erotic!

On the Monday morning there was some very tired looking people with quite a bit of hangovers, so the brunch was very appreciated for everyone.

We waved Carol, Danny and kerri off at about 3pm, after a really enjoyable weekend.  I think we probably enjoyed our “staycation” as much or even more that our usual holiday break.  it was great having our close friends with us as guests for the weekend and I do love spending time with kerri.  Madam knows that there is fondness between us and while it isn’t a love, it is a friends with benefits type of thing and she has said it is what she wanted me have, so that I had a close friendship with someone that understood what was going on for us.

so overall a great weekend, lots of fun and quite relaxing with only a few moments of “excitement/ public humiliation”, overall it was almost quite vanilla!  

Chastity – it seems kind of popular.

Posted on 23/08/2019 by sissie billie

 In the last few days I’ve re set up our Flickr account after all the hassle that there has been with Pintrest, Tumblr etc.  One of the things that really struck me as I set the account up and looked at groups and some of the photos was that Chastity seems to have become more popular and more common.

In fact long term chastity wear seems to be normal with submissives now of all types.  I had this view that regular and prolonged chastity wear was in a minority – with the bulk of chastity use being more part of the short term wear, used in a “session” type of way.

The more that I look at it and look around, it does seem to be a major part of the FLR and cuckolding relationships, I almost feel let down that we aren’t doing something out of the ordinary – God Forbid that our FLR is “Mainstream!!!!!”.

Also a lot of crossdressers, TVs, sissys and submissives (and combinations of all of those) seem to indulge in chastity wear, either self imposed or with a keyholder.

I don’t know why this was a surprise.

The variety, range and availability of chastity devices has improved massively since we started playing with chastity as part of our FLR. and looking back at my first one, a CB2000 it was a pretty basic affair.  Definitely a “session” chastity and not really comfortable for long term wear.

A cb2000, but not me

Since then we have purchased several, either as a play item or to try and find that elusive device that is perfect for long term (permanent??!!?) wear.

Below is our collection, less the ones that I currently wear:

my chastity collection less the pink polycarbon CB6000s and the new metal cage

 We started with the CB2000 in 2005 and that was OK as a introduction, Madam and Mistress Carol took myself and Kerri up to London to a shop to purchase the cages.  The cage really was a learning tool but was big and bulky to wear long term and certainly an obvious uncomfortable lump when wearing trousers.

The metal cage next in the row (first in the lower row on the left) is definitely a session cage, it’s heavy to wear and pulls both the scrotum and the sissy cock down.  Madam does like me wearing this when she want to have a bit of a bondage torment session as this cage allows her to tease me and then when the cage is full  to torment my tightly held appendage.

The next one that we went to was a CB6000 in 2010, Madam had read reviews and they seemed to be the next main type of cage and it looked like it would allow for longer term wear.  Having purchased a proper CB6000 it was working well for a period, slightly more comfortable and then a bit of disaster.  We were coming back from an evening out and I was caged and driving and all of a sudden there was pain in my groin.  We had to pull over and thankfully the services were only a few miles a head.  The cage had split along the seam and was trapping various bit of cock and scrotum skin.  Thankfully Madam had the key with her and we could remove the broken cage.  Thankfully there was no real damage other than small cuts and bruising – not a good day!!

We stopped all chastity play for about 6 months (I had recovered within a week or so) and we looked at how to repair the cage.  a bit of epoxy resin looked to be the way ahead but we then saw an article that highlighted this apparent problem with a batch of CB6000.  The suggestion was that if the rings were still OK (ours were) then buy a CB3000 cage and with some very minimal filing of the holes the  back rings and pegs would fit and  the chastity would be back on the road with a more reliable cage.  Well for £26 we had a new cage and about 10 minutes with a couple of small files we had the chastity back ready to use.

This Chastity started to be the main one for us and it could be worn long term, not just days but weeks and chastity came back as being part of our play and our FLR.

We also started to see that there were other types of model out there and they had some good reviews.  The Birdlock and holytrainer.  we decided that we would give them and try.  The silicone birdlock is really comfortable but as I have large bollocks (need to use a 50mm back ring) it tends to hold the chastity out and away from the body, not good for wearing with trousers!! but it is a pretty good and comfortable chastity for long term wear when you are enfemme.

my silicone birdlock, a comfortable chastity, but bulky to wear under trousers

 The Holytrainer we tried wasn’t comfortable – the shaped backring was really comfortable but the cage wasn’t, even after using a bit of adjustments and trimming of the plastic it still remained an uncomfortable wear.

with the experience of using the silicone birdlock we thought we would try a silicone CB6000 mainly to see if it would allow for comfortable long term wear with trousers and such like.  Comfortable – Yes, wear it with trousers – Yes, any use as a chastity – No, it was like wearing a rubber sock!  once it warmed up with body heat it became very soft and would stretch as I became erect.  so it didn’t score very high.

So we decided to go to the other extreme and went for a metal CB6000, this was very comfortable – heavy but comfortable.  the backrings were great, nice and smooth and there was no rubbing issues – a small drop of moisturiser on the ring twice a day and it would be fine for long term wear.  The cage was comfortable and with a little bit of KY and to would slide on and into place.  we used this for a lot of sessions and this was the cage that I had when Madam started to see Master on a regular basis.

One of the things that we also started to notice was that when flaccid I wasn’t filling the cage – now this isn’t shrinkage.

I’ll divert off a little.  I’ve been using Chastity for near 15 years now, and certainly more regular and long term wear.  In the early days wearing a chastity was difficult as it had me aroused the whole time, so the cage would be full.  over time I’ve got used to wearing it and I still get erect to fill the cage but for routine things and while I just do me normal work, everything relaxes and a large amount of time I’m in a flaccid state.  what that means is that I can wear smaller cages as I’m more used to putting them on and stay flaccid for them – as opposed to the early days where it was almost like trying to get a (small) inflatable elephant into a suitcase! due to being aroused by the thought of a session in chastity.  is there Shrinkage of my sissy penis – no, but after a long period in chastity it does take a little bit time to get back to my massive 5″.  if you’d been confined for several months it would take time for you to wake up and stretch out.

After a few checks on things and sizing we thought we would try a pink polycarbon CB6000s.  not a real one but a copy with the view if it works we would purchase a proper on.  well it did work and work very well.the cage was comfortable but I had problems with the back rings digging in.  they rings had a edge to them rather than being smooth and round or oval.  so we decide to play about with the components of all of the chastities that I had and Franken Cage was born.

FrankenCage used the pink polycarbon cage, the back ring from the Metal CB6000, and the pegs and spacers from original CB6000 (the metal spacers do work but the plastic ones have been cut down to the appropriate size).  we had a really comfortable chastity device that was really good for regular wear, long term wear and was reasonably discrete when worn under trousers – tight jeans should be avoided.

Initial version of FrankenCage

 The other one that is in the photo at the top is the Chastity with the connection for the TENs unit.  Madam and Sir love this one, I’m not quite so keen, upto level 17 is a exiting thrill but above that is punishment settings.  Madam has found that if I’m put into this cage and she pegs me with her strap-on and she sets the level to 15-17 then she can get me to drip cum/fluid a lot quicker than would normally happen – this isn’t the case at the minute due to the prolonged period that I’ve had in my current cage.

and now we come to my current cage, Madam wanted me to try a smaller metal open cage and see how I get on.  It arrived in October November time last year and we swapped me to it for short periods.  with it’s shaped back ring and it’s tight curve and my ability to be flaccid and relaxed when putting them on it is a very comfortable cage (???!!??).  over the next few months we swapped between the new cage and Frankencage until after my easter release we went full time with the smaller metal cage.

my current cage – with internal lock and tight curved cage.

The real advantage with this cage is the internal lock, no more requiring an elastic band to hold the padlock down against the cage to prevent the click click click of the padlock knocking against the cage.

My last observation on the cages – as I have started to wear smaller cages I have also had to change my lingerie wear.  I still have a foreskin and it doesn’t retract so it is there at the end of my little sissy clit when I pop it into the cage and with the smaller cages it can hang out/ stick out the end of the cage – which is good when you go for a pee but it means that I can’t wear lace fronted knickers and panties – it is like taking a cheese grater to your foreskin, so satins, nylons and silks only with these types of cages.

So that’s is my evolution journey through Chastity.  I’m sure it hasn’t ended, Madam and myself have spoken about the potential of getting a small metal cage with a urethral plug as a punishment cage for short term wear, so we will see where we go next.

So the question dear reader (if you are still there) is has chastity become Mainstream?  Is there more submissives wearing them?  is it now an essential part of a FLR or cuckolding relationship?

or is it the fact that it is a more establish part of our relationship and daily life that we notice more of it or actively look for others that are doing the same?

a lot to think about.  well have a good weekend, looks like the weather will be kinder to us and we may have the BBQ that we missed last weekend.  Master John is over for the whole Bank Holiday so it will be busy!

billie xxx

Charity Shop brousing

Posted on 12/08/2019 by sissie billie

On Friday Madam had the day off and so we went into town.  The grocery shopping was done and we decided to have a trip round the shops.

One of the things that we do regularly do is have a look in some of the charity shops to see if there is anything interesting to be had.

While there is often interesting things and really nice clothes, and having a look for things that would be in both our sizes can be a challenge for me.

One of the things that Madam did spot was a 2 piece skirted suit, a navy blue with a wide pinstrip, .  Madam really liked the suit but not for her, she thought that it would be ideal for me to wear in my office, unfortunately it was a size 14 and the reality is that I’d need a 16 skirt and while a 16 jacket would fit an 18 would be better. (a size 16 blouse does work for me )



Madam liked the idea of the suit as I normally always wear a jacket and tie when I go out to work and I have one to hand in the office when I have a Skype meeting.  it’s part of giving that professional image.  Madam mentioned that perhaps we should apply the same logic for my move forward with my increased dressing and wardrobe.



The one thing that she did say was that if the suit had fitted we would have been heading to a seamtress and have the skirt shortened, to be at my stocking tops.


we have already created my secretary wardrobe for office wear, with the short skirts and Madam does like the pussy bow blouse look for me as she thinks that on a her submissive husband it does add to the sissy look for me and that it is a look that she feels is appropriate for me but she does like the idea of adding a skirt suit to the wardrobe for me.


so while we were not successful on this hunting trip I’m sure that we will be on the look out for a suitable suit for me, we’ll wait and see what we may find in the charity shops, if one that is suitable doesn’t turn up we may be off to see what Marks and Spencer’s have in the mix and match suits.

The Joys of censorship….Falling into the trap again!

Posted on 06/08/2019 by sissie billie

If you have followed this blog for a while you’ll know that we originally had a blog on WordPress and which was deleted due to adult content, we also have a Pintrest account which regularly get used to find my daily 10 images that I’m required to find for Madam, to then explain why I selected them.

The problem is that we have a regular problem with Pintrest, we regularly get emails telling us that they will suspend my account because that I have unsuitable images, the thing that gets me is that we purge the boards that we have and hide some others but the reoccurring trend seems to be that Pintrest send me a email “suggested images we think you’ll like” and I have a look and think “yes there is some good photos or images and I save the image and then Pintrest spring their trap!!

“we have deleted an image that violated our terms of service, if we find any more we will suspend your account!”

I’d just like to point out you twats – you sent me the bloody image in the first place!!!

It seems that I keep forgetting about this particular trap that Pintrest keep setting for the unwary!

oh well, time to down load all the ones that I want to keep and purge the boards.

This is the image that was unsuitable not sure what the problem is? is it bondage, is it sex. What is the particular issue?

Oh well bloody Puritans!

It’s Holiday time – but no release from Chastity

Posted on 23/07/2019 by sissie billie

From Madam Alice,

We’ve started our holiday slightly earlier this year, mainly due to covering the project at work.  so last weekend was spent with my family up in Leicestershire and having a very nice day out at a local show looking at Horses until the rain came and forced us to take cover in the Beer Tent (I think it was actually called the hospitality tent but the jist was the same.

we decided this year that we would stay in the UK and Mick suggested that perhaps we could go to Scotland again, we hadn’t been for about 10 years and the idea appealed to us both, so we left Leicester on Sunday afternoon and headed up to the Borders, Monday was spent travelling quite leisurely up into the Highlands and booking into a very nice hotel at Pitlochry.

This morning had us heading to Braemar through some stunning scenery of the Cairngorms where we have a cabin booked for the night.  Tomorrow we are exploring the local area and will be overnighting at a B&B in Ballater, before heading to have a few days in a cottage near Banchory.

All sounds lovely and it is….But….I’ve not unlocked billie/Mick.  I have my strap on in my bag and there will be lots of use of it, well there has been already, I just had to use the penis gag to ensure that billie didn’t squeal too much when we spent Friday and Saturday night at Mother’s!

We played a bit of fun as we travelled up the M1 and A1 on Sunday.  billie had his usual underwear on under his male clothes when we left Leicester and I pulled into a discrete area that we both know and I had him remove his trousers and shirt and replace it with a short skirt, blouse and his wig, a little make up and a pair of big sun glasses and we were off onto the Motor way.  since we were both now wearing short skirts and stockings we hitched the skirts up to show our stockings tops, all with the hope that some one might notice.

I’m sure that one or two lorry drivers did notice particularly when I had billie move her skirt a little higher just to show a bit of her knickers.  it was all quite fun and I must admit quite a turn on.  Billie could certainly tell I was excited by it all later that evening!

Billie will stay in chastity until we get back home and I will release her when we are back with John and we can do our traditional (its a new tradition) she can make love to me after john has had sex with me and while she has John “helping her” from behind.

I can be so cruel but it is fun.  this is as much a holiday for billie as it is for Mick, they seem to be enjoying it so far!

Addition of counters to the Blog

Posted on 07/07/2019 by sissie billie

Having seen several blogs with counters relating to time in chastity, Madam was keen to see if we could add a similar counter so we went looking for how we could find one and how to add the counter.

Thanks to Poppet and Steffie K for their advice and pointers and now we have 2 counters added to the side of the blog.

Now the time on the counters are close but not 100%.  The next reset will be a bit more accurate.

The time since last free orgasm is from when I last came when out of the chastity.  It doesn’t cover any orgasm or cumming while in chastity – either by vibrators, frustrations or anal.

Chastity – Looking back and the way forward

Posted on 04/07/2019 by sissie billie

On our last post Happy Pet – Poppet – left a comment

“Oh wow billie, what an amazing day you had. That must have been quite soethign to not only try things on in front of a stranger and her maid husband but then to also discuss chastity with them and show them your cage. i can only imagine it must have been both thrilling and terrifying but they sound like they were lovely people. Hats off to your Madam for requiring you to do this and thank you for sharing details of such a wonderful day.

p
x

p.s. and kudos to Madam for getting you to do this in the first instance!

p.p.s have you ever considered a smaller cage?”

I’ve been wearing a Chastity device on and off for about 14 years now, and to be honest the last 8-9 years has seen it become a more regular thing and it has been more full time since Master became my wife’s boyfriend.

We started off with a CB-2000 back in 2005 and this was quite a new thing, the Tickleberry website at the time was the main source of information about these things and it really sparked Madam’s interest along with Mistress Carol’s, so after a bit of discussion and research we all headed up to London and Kerri and myself purchased a CB2000 each.

As an introduction it is alright but it is far from perfect, but for a bit of fun and chastity play it works.  but it isn’t for long term wear.

next we purchased a CB6000 and that was a real bloody disaster.  The Back Rings were brilliant as a system and far more comfortable and while initially the cage was very comfortable I ended up in agony as during a trip out driving the plastic cage split – not good.  Apparently this was a common problem with early CB6000, but thankfully we found that the CB3000 cage was more robust and would also fit the CB6000 back rings.  also we found you could just by the separate parts so of we went with the our first hybrid cage.  this worked a real treat and served very well for quite some time.

we then decided to play around with a few things and Madam wanted to see how I dealt with the weight of a metal cage, and purchased an all metal CB6000.  Again this was very good and the smooth metal back ring was comfortable to wear but I did notice that there was room in the cage with my penis.  The weight was fine when supported in knickers but when kneeling and Madam was behind me with a strap on and there is no support then you become very aware of the weight.

About this time Mistress Carol had show Madam that she had downgraded her husband kerri to a CB6000s (small) and she suggested that it was time to do the same with me.

So we invested in a cheap CB6000s, only wanting to see how it worked, if OK then we would invest in a proper one.  In this case the back ring was poor but the cage was excellent.  I also found that I had perfected the routine on how to get myself into the smaller cage – however I definitely needed the biggest back ring.  By using the metal back ring of the Metal CB6000 and the cage from the CB6000s I ended up with a very comfortable cage that could be worn long term.  with slight adjustment to the size of trousers and the type of trousers it was pretty much the case that I could wear it with no distinct bulge or issues.

we’ve also purchased a CB6000 variant that is a cheap ebay purchase but it has pads that allow for the connection to a TENs unit which gives electrical pulses and that can be stimulating at low to medium levels and definitely a punishment when set high (but still very thrilling in a strange way???!!)  Madam also combines that with a E-STIM butt plug and it can make for an interesting session.

and then we come to my current one, the open metal cage.  this is comfortable and is great as the lock is internal so no need for an elastic band to hold the old padlock against the cage, and this keeps my penis tightly against my scrotum.  it is smaller than my CB6000s but more comfortable and easier to keep myself clean.  I’m unlocked less frequently and it is mainly for shaving and such like.

so down to Happy Pet’s question what about the future – we may go to a smaller cage, we have been down sizing throughout our chastity journey so far, so it may well happen.  this current cage is small but comfortable, could I get smaller? possibly with time.

Madam has said that she is looking for a small metal chastity with a metal urethral tube for me to wear as a punishment chastity, so we will see what that entails.

It may sound bizarre to some but I do enjoy wearing my chastity, it makes me focus on Madam and pleasing her and that is the important thing for me and for our relationship as a whole.

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